In a new interview with SunNewsonline, daughter
of late creator of Afrobeat, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti,
currently in her early 50s, who has seen and
done it all, says she is still single because she
has lost all interest in marriage and doesn't
believe in the institution any more.
Excerpts below:
MARRIAGE
I am still single because I have lost all interest in
marriage and I don’t believe in the institution
any more. Nigerian men are too controlling and
overbearing for me and I am already set in my
ways. Besides, I have been on my own for too
long. My major concern is training my daughter.
I praise married women; I think they are the real
stars of this country. Women in their husbands
house looking after their husbands and children
are amazing especially the ones with nine to-five
jobs who come back home tired and still go to
the kitchen to cook for their husbands. These are
the women that women magazines should be
celebrating because they are the real super
women.
Men are not easy to look after; I can’t do that
so I duff my hat for such women. When my only
child clocked two, I was separated from my ex-
husband. I am now in my 50’s and I am not
thinking about having another child and I have
no regrets. I don’t believe in having kids with
everyman that comes my way. Maybe I could
have had more kids if I had re-married but since
I never remarried there was no need for me to
have more kids. My marriage didn't work
because we couldn't get on together after two
years. Right now my daughter is the most
important person in my life. I am still single and
I have found a suitable man but right now,
marriage is the last thing on my mind. Yes, it is
true that you never can say never because things
happen. But if ever I want to get married again,
you will be the first to know.
SEXUAL HARRASEMENT
You know as women, some of us have tried one
way or the other to outsmart men. I was a
player as a young girl so I won’t say I have been
sexually harassed because I was the one that
tried to play men for their money you know. I
have had men that have spoilt me silly with gifts
and money. And I knew I was just a flirt; I was
just playing them. The men took us out for lunch
and we just spent their money. My friend used to
come along when I went on dates and I went
with her when she had dates; we would eat and
drink and the men usually gave us some money
when we were about to leave. You know N500
was a lot of money back then. I remember that
those days, a car was going for N3, 000.
So there was this particular instance when we
wanted to do the same thing with my friend’s
date. The meeting point was one of the rooms at
the Eko Hotel & Suites. When we got there we
knocked on the door, he answered and we
entered. He was lying on the bed but left the
door unlocked so he would not have to get up to
open the door when we came in.
He is a popular man so I don’t want to mention
his name. When he removed the sheets he was
stark naked and we were shocked! He started
chasing us around the room; he would chase my
friend and then me. When we eventually found
our way out of his hotel room we ran straight
home. I couldn't tell my mum what happened.
But I told my sister, brother and our friends and
they all laughed at us. We were greedy young
women who happened on a very wicked man.
No man has ever asked me for sex for favours.
Maybe they are too scared of me because of my
father and brother; they probably know they will
sing about it. Even with Felebration, no sponsor
has ever asked me for anything; they just
sponsor; maybe it’s because of my family
background.
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